A reader's reaction to Ron's new book, Book II
This book had to have been very difficult to write, my Son also left this plane by his own choice in August 2011. It continues to be a painful journey for me to come to grips with my only child hurting so badly he felt death was his only way out. It was a comfort to read the feelings and physical trauma such a death of a child causes from another parent's perspective. I cried several times while reading this book, both in hope that my Son is developing as Joshua is, and in relief that what I felt, and still feel today is normal, counselors say as much, but hearing it from another parent is different somehow. Thank you Ron, for having the courage to put your feelings and thoughts into writing and sharing Joshua with the rest of us, I know he must be even more proud to have you for his dad.
If you miss or long for someone who has passed from this life -- a spouse, a parent, a brother or sister, a friend -- you need to read this book. I believe that it will give you a lot of insight and hope!
I came to this book with no particular belief in the efficacy of mediums or communication with the dead. But the sincerity and genuineness of Ron's story will convince almost anyone that there are possibilities even scientists and empiricists ought to consider. The book is beautifully written, a gripping, sometimes terrible, more often wonderful story that deals boldly with issues most people are afraid to face. The lessons it teaches about living positively, treasuring our loved ones, paying attention to the spiritual, and above all forgiving each other, all are powerfully presented. If you've ever lost a loved one, you will look upon that experience in a new and uplifting way after reading "Reconciled by the Light."
Diana Lawrence, Author
I finished reading Reconciled by the Light, and I want to thank Ron Pappalardo for writing what must have been so difficult to even face without agony. Work like that is not for the faint of heart, and we, but especially the newly bereaved, can be encouraged that there is light at the end of a long, painful journey.
The book gives a factual account of Josh's last day on earth, his death, and the following days including his funeral. Then it becomes an account of Ron's special quest to find, help, and reconcile with his son, and his consequent efforts to bridge the great divide between the physical and spiritual worlds. Prominent in the book is the work of mediums who aid communication between Josh and his family, and messages Josh brings from the spiritual world about his life there.
There are a couple of chapters that moved me deeply and stand out in the book. One of them is the account of Ron's preparation to read Josh's first letter. In it, the heart of a father aching to meet, and touch, and embrace his son, and the incredible longing of the parental heart is bared for us to see, and I know many will relate to that -- the tears will not only be the father's tears but those of the reader.
I was also touched by mentions of how Connie (Ron's wife) expressed her grief in her paintings, and it struck me how different men and women are when it comes to grieving. The information Josh brings from the spiritual world is very reassuring and comforting. Even though we know a lot more about it than we used to, there is still residual fear about a realm we have not experienced personally. Josh tells us stories about his transition and growth, the friends he met and the help he received. He talks to his parents and siblings with love, with humor and with new found wisdom, and he also gives advice to his former school friends.
It is an incredible journey, and I was honored to be taken along on such a sacred path.
Thank you Ron for writing the book.
"Reconciled by the Light recounts the remarkable journey taken by the Pappalardo family after their teenage son Joshua commits suicide - from the predictable shock and grief, to a very unpredictable liberation and tremendous growth, and, yes, this includes Joshua himself. This book goes far beyond 'coping' with suicide and loss to a powerful reaffirmation of just who we truly are and why each of us is here."
~Rev. David Hose, author of Every Day God
"Reconciled by the Light should be required reading for every teenager,
college student, or adult who is having a hard time getting through life.
Joshua's uplifting message will inspire everyone who reads it."
~Randy Peyser, author of The Power of Miracle Thinking
"There is a saying - Grief shared is halved and joy shared is doubled. Your story together with Josh's has the power to heal that grief."
~ Patricia Titus, RN, Duke University Hospital